The unspoken questions
Before we make a decision, we wonder about our dreams, our stories and our needs. Some of the things we wonder about, even if we don’t verbalize them to ourselves:
What will I tell my friends?
What will I tell my boss?
What is everyone else doing?
Will this make me feel dumb?
Is this good for me right now?
Does it help my family?
Is it scarce?
Does it raise my status?
Will this help me be part of a group I care about?
Would my mom be proud of me?
Will I get blamed?
Is there a shortcut?
Is it safe?
Is it thrilling?
How will I feel if they run out?
Will it make the pain go away?
Is it forbidden?
[And then, maybe, if we’ve got many choices, “how much does it cost?”]