Luxury goods are only consumed when we've got enough. You shouldn't go shopping for a Birkin bag with your last dollar.
It's easy to believe that kindness is like that. We need more reserves, perhaps, before we can expend some of what we've got in this generous way.
You've had a hard day, it's raining out, the world is changing, your boss is mean to you, the checking account is overdrawn, you're on deadline…
But… Does every need have to be filled, every emotion in place before we're capable of being kind?
Do we have to have enough money, enough confidence about the future and enough of everything else we crave before we can find the space to offer someone else a hand?
It turns out that the opposite is true. That kindness is a foundation for the rest. That investing time and resources in extending ourselves shifts the rest of our needs in precisely the right direction, not only putting us closer to satisfying those other needs, but enjoying the journey as well.
Kindness rewards the giver as well.