When we’re close to an answer, there are two easy paths–name it, right now, and move on. Or avoid the answer and the responsibility that comes with it and stall.
The best path is the third one. Wait for five beats.
Kneejerk is not an admirable trait.
A few breaths before we rip into someone. A few questions before we issue a diagnosis. A chance to do a bit more research or consultation.
And then, yes, we have to name it. No stalling.
Five beats of tension open the door for connection, accuracy and insight. And then we ship.