Responsibility and blame
It’s tempting to hand it to other people. If someone else takes the blame, if they accept the responsibility, then we get satisfaction and we’re off the hook.
Alas, this doesn’t work unless the others do the taking and do the accepting.
Which is unlikely. We’re giving power to someone who isn’t going to use it to make our day better.
It’s far more predictable and reliable to simply take it ourselves. At least that way, we can do something with it.
This simple shift gives us power and authority over our narrative. It helps us avoid wasting time on wishes and ever more ornate arguments about our version of things.
What can you build now that you have everything under your control?