Appropriate tension
Growth usually feels risky. The feeling is a protection mechanism, a way to avoid failure or even the fear of failure.
Of course, risk also feels risky (or at least it should). Differentiating between the two is difficult, which is why finding institutions, methods or coaches that have experience in the difference is valuable.
When we create the conditions for supported tension–the feeling of ‘this might not work’–we give people the chance to grow.